Started to write this post last month and never finished it, never posted it either! but now that i'm reading it again, it kinda feels finished, so i'd just post it..................................
so its a new year....................yeah yeah i know its already like 17 days into the year, but its still new innit! It's eightish and i'm on my computer writing this posT...OBVIOUSLY!
Er.............i'm not high, just incase it appears so! went to bed yesterday night thinking i knew exactly how today would turn out. i even woke up and i had it all planned out in my head. but alas! i'm sure you can take a hint.
so i had this dream................................................. that i had spent the last three and a half years of my life, waiting and waiting for ........now that's the funny part i dunno what i was waiting for!
Sunday, January 17, 2010
Monday, June 15, 2009
more musings!
…….So I was at the market on Saturday and I saw the most shocking thing! It wasn’t that unusual though but this was just kinda…………..
Was standing in front of my customer’s stall, waiting to buy snails when I saw two children (a boy and a girl, definitely not older than 5 both of them) locked in a very very warm adult embrace! Now she was standing in front of him with both her hands curled tightly around his neck and he had his hands around her waist and they were just there…locked in an embrace that wasn’t about to end! They were standing so close to each other, that I couldn’t drive a pin right through them without pricking one of them.
Trust market women………about 5 of the women who had stalls in the same area started poking fun at them and calling the attention of the girl’s mother, a fellow trader “mama……. Come see your pikin o!” “e don marry finish for inside market!” That was the point I broke my stare and started laughing.
Now hear this……. One of the women separated them and hit the girl tauntingly and asked her to go and sit down but she screamed and went right back to hug him! Of course they all burst out laughing and making their comments “see them o”, “dem don start o”. They of course got separated again and this time the boy held on firmly to her hand and refused to let go.
At this point, I was done buying my snails and had to leave before I become the topic for not minding my business…….. I really do not know how that ended. Wondering where on earth those kids picked that up from! Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not unusual for kids of different genders to pair up, play, hug etc heck it’s even cute sometimes and you even get those awwwwwww moments, but this was too intense…………….even after it stopped being funny and they stopped them, they refused to let go, worse still she kept coming back…………. Frankly she looked like a desperate little girl!
A colleague sent me a video of some Nigerian kids at a party. Someone recorded it on phone and passed it around because they thought it was hilarious. Now get a load of this………….. I think the song playing was P-Squares “Do me”. This boy was dancing with a girl and yet again they couldn’t have been older than 5 or 6 maybe. She turns her back to him and bends wriggling her non existent waist and he holds her by the waist, closes in on her and keeps dancing! Now that was atrocious and repugnant at the same time! How did she learn to dance like that, and how did he know to hold her by the waist. He could have just left his hands up in the air where everyone could see them.
I remember saying to myself that day, after seeing the clip that if I ever saw my child like that, I wouldn’t just laugh it off. I remember as a kid, I could never have tried either scenario. My mother “God rest her soul” would have dealt with me soo bad. The no nonsense Edo woman that she was. Some times I thought she over did it, but if there was one thing I could say to her right now, it would be “Thanks mum, for molding me into the woman I am today”.
Was talking to a friend the other day and was telling her that all my mother had to give me was “the eye” and I immediately got the message. The weirdest part was the eye meant different things and I understood them all.
There was the eye for:
• Don’t you dare eat that food you are being offered, while her lips were parted in a soft smile saying to me “ah ah, you don’t want to eat”. The long and short was if I touched the food, I would be in soup, literarily.
• You had better stop that now, before I smack you.
• Just wait till we get home, I will so smack you for embarrassing me out here, as if you do not have more than enough toys to play with at home.
• The worst was ofcourse the “I will not wait till we get home, I will smack you right here and right now and there is nothing you can do about it, besides your father is not here to save you. If you think you can disgrace me out here, I would return the favour!
After being smacked around a few times, I got my act together faster than anything. Personally I believe nothing can replace a certain amount of discipline in every aspect of life and it starts from childhood.
…………So I’m thinking if I was that little girl in the market on Saturday, all my mother had to do was look at me and I would just stop…………..no buts or maybe’s.
Was standing in front of my customer’s stall, waiting to buy snails when I saw two children (a boy and a girl, definitely not older than 5 both of them) locked in a very very warm adult embrace! Now she was standing in front of him with both her hands curled tightly around his neck and he had his hands around her waist and they were just there…locked in an embrace that wasn’t about to end! They were standing so close to each other, that I couldn’t drive a pin right through them without pricking one of them.
Trust market women………about 5 of the women who had stalls in the same area started poking fun at them and calling the attention of the girl’s mother, a fellow trader “mama……. Come see your pikin o!” “e don marry finish for inside market!” That was the point I broke my stare and started laughing.
Now hear this……. One of the women separated them and hit the girl tauntingly and asked her to go and sit down but she screamed and went right back to hug him! Of course they all burst out laughing and making their comments “see them o”, “dem don start o”. They of course got separated again and this time the boy held on firmly to her hand and refused to let go.
At this point, I was done buying my snails and had to leave before I become the topic for not minding my business…….. I really do not know how that ended. Wondering where on earth those kids picked that up from! Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not unusual for kids of different genders to pair up, play, hug etc heck it’s even cute sometimes and you even get those awwwwwww moments, but this was too intense…………….even after it stopped being funny and they stopped them, they refused to let go, worse still she kept coming back…………. Frankly she looked like a desperate little girl!
A colleague sent me a video of some Nigerian kids at a party. Someone recorded it on phone and passed it around because they thought it was hilarious. Now get a load of this………….. I think the song playing was P-Squares “Do me”. This boy was dancing with a girl and yet again they couldn’t have been older than 5 or 6 maybe. She turns her back to him and bends wriggling her non existent waist and he holds her by the waist, closes in on her and keeps dancing! Now that was atrocious and repugnant at the same time! How did she learn to dance like that, and how did he know to hold her by the waist. He could have just left his hands up in the air where everyone could see them.
I remember saying to myself that day, after seeing the clip that if I ever saw my child like that, I wouldn’t just laugh it off. I remember as a kid, I could never have tried either scenario. My mother “God rest her soul” would have dealt with me soo bad. The no nonsense Edo woman that she was. Some times I thought she over did it, but if there was one thing I could say to her right now, it would be “Thanks mum, for molding me into the woman I am today”.
Was talking to a friend the other day and was telling her that all my mother had to give me was “the eye” and I immediately got the message. The weirdest part was the eye meant different things and I understood them all.
There was the eye for:
• Don’t you dare eat that food you are being offered, while her lips were parted in a soft smile saying to me “ah ah, you don’t want to eat”. The long and short was if I touched the food, I would be in soup, literarily.
• You had better stop that now, before I smack you.
• Just wait till we get home, I will so smack you for embarrassing me out here, as if you do not have more than enough toys to play with at home.
• The worst was ofcourse the “I will not wait till we get home, I will smack you right here and right now and there is nothing you can do about it, besides your father is not here to save you. If you think you can disgrace me out here, I would return the favour!
After being smacked around a few times, I got my act together faster than anything. Personally I believe nothing can replace a certain amount of discipline in every aspect of life and it starts from childhood.
…………So I’m thinking if I was that little girl in the market on Saturday, all my mother had to do was look at me and I would just stop…………..no buts or maybe’s.
Friday, June 12, 2009
daytime musings!
Now i haven't done this in a really really long time! the last time i wrote anything here was well over a year ago................dunno why i'm back here again!
Deactivated my facebook account like over a month ago! woke up one morning and said to myself "it's high time i got off facebook" truth is i really didn't see the fun in it anymore. check my profile, read peoples updates and look at pictures till my eyes pop open! maybe another reason i decided to bail was to allow myself some time to introspect..............
so yesterday was a really crazy day on the island! it rained torrents! crazy thing is when i was leaving home in the morning, there really was no indication that it was going to be a wet wet wet day. Got to Outter marina and it just poured! traffic was no joke, but was real impressed to see that LASTMA was working in the rain. i finally made it to the island eightish! now here was the problem. i was stuck in the car and couldn't get out cuz the rain was still soooo heavy. Decided to sit in for a bit and ended up staying in my car for an hour! Finally decided to get out and run across the road (with an umbrella ofcourse) to the office...... hmnnnn was drenched by the time i got into the office! so much for an island bigz girl wannabe. And then it was time to go home! crazy traffic right from the front of the office! had to chill in the office till past 8! and then got home in like 30 mins!
now most people would be surprised if i told them this, for the simple reason that i swear off night driving. totally hate driving anywhere at night. Not with everyone's full lights comming at me from behind, opposite and beside! my eyes literarily hurt and i do not see a thing. same effect when i'm driving on a very sunny day....so bad now that i have permanent sunglasses for my car.
picked up a new interest in watching "sex and the city" this is ofcourse because i'm up to date on ..desperate housewives..lost..greys anatomy..house..girlfriends..scrubs.. and i could just go on and on. By the way, i'm not one of those ..prison break..alias..24.. people! so i'm usually in limbo when it's the topic of discussion around me. not that i haven't given it a chance. Got season one to four of ..prison break.. from a friend once and tried to watch it, but i just didn't find it engaging i guess. and i know some people might have me for dinner just for making this statement but its the truth.
begining to feel that way about ..sex and the city.. as well but "giving it a chance". Seen the first five episodes, but just feels like a bunch of desperate 30 something year olds! saw the movie and it was really cool, that's actually why i decided to see the series. good thing its friday! might pull an all nighter on season one!
Had yet another crazy dream yesterday night! always seem to have crazy dreams that leave the lucky ones i share them with looking at me really weird! now dreamt that this old person of mine! not sure if friend is the appropriate word to use as our "friendship" has been tested atleast two defining times and i'm not certain it passed the test! anyhoo.......... so i'm sitting in the office and talking to a colleague of mine and then another colleague screams her name and beckons on her to come in! now that was the first weird part, met her like over 12 years ago and no one i work with knows her. so i was kinda shocked that had happened and then she walks in and says a very warm hi to the colleague i'm talking to and walks past me like i wasn't standing there. i wondered about that! then i over hear her talking to the one who called her about her wedding aso ebi. ofcourse i feel slighted, i should atleast hear about it too.....i think! anyways i go up to her later and she gives me some attitude at first and i say "not sure it's right for me to overhear your wedding info" and a mutual friend standing with her says " well she thinks you wanna come and outshine her" and i'm thinking hey i'm not even on your train how would i do that! and then she looks at me and says well it's not that i didn't want to tell you, but you see had my trad yesterday already and my church wedding is tomorrow and i'm not even going to be around for it cuz leaving the county tonight! now what bride misses her own wedding! was still trying to figure that out in my head when the idea dropped in that she was getting married to my boyfriend (who by the way i do not know) and then i woke up trying to figure out why i would dream about that and her! and then it occured to me that while waiting for the traffic to settle yesterday, i was talking with a colleague about how another girl got married to her friend and colleague's fiance and only told her a week before that she was getting married and didn't tell her who "obviously"
you see i think in graphics........the mere mention of it already sounds weird, but truth is i have a healthy imagination. i can put almost anything into pictures and i guess they kinda store up in my subconcious and play a movie for me on choice nights!
Deactivated my facebook account like over a month ago! woke up one morning and said to myself "it's high time i got off facebook" truth is i really didn't see the fun in it anymore. check my profile, read peoples updates and look at pictures till my eyes pop open! maybe another reason i decided to bail was to allow myself some time to introspect..............
so yesterday was a really crazy day on the island! it rained torrents! crazy thing is when i was leaving home in the morning, there really was no indication that it was going to be a wet wet wet day. Got to Outter marina and it just poured! traffic was no joke, but was real impressed to see that LASTMA was working in the rain. i finally made it to the island eightish! now here was the problem. i was stuck in the car and couldn't get out cuz the rain was still soooo heavy. Decided to sit in for a bit and ended up staying in my car for an hour! Finally decided to get out and run across the road (with an umbrella ofcourse) to the office...... hmnnnn was drenched by the time i got into the office! so much for an island bigz girl wannabe. And then it was time to go home! crazy traffic right from the front of the office! had to chill in the office till past 8! and then got home in like 30 mins!
now most people would be surprised if i told them this, for the simple reason that i swear off night driving. totally hate driving anywhere at night. Not with everyone's full lights comming at me from behind, opposite and beside! my eyes literarily hurt and i do not see a thing. same effect when i'm driving on a very sunny day....so bad now that i have permanent sunglasses for my car.
picked up a new interest in watching "sex and the city" this is ofcourse because i'm up to date on ..desperate housewives..lost..greys anatomy..house..girlfriends..scrubs.. and i could just go on and on. By the way, i'm not one of those ..prison break..alias..24.. people! so i'm usually in limbo when it's the topic of discussion around me. not that i haven't given it a chance. Got season one to four of ..prison break.. from a friend once and tried to watch it, but i just didn't find it engaging i guess. and i know some people might have me for dinner just for making this statement but its the truth.
begining to feel that way about ..sex and the city.. as well but "giving it a chance". Seen the first five episodes, but just feels like a bunch of desperate 30 something year olds! saw the movie and it was really cool, that's actually why i decided to see the series. good thing its friday! might pull an all nighter on season one!
Had yet another crazy dream yesterday night! always seem to have crazy dreams that leave the lucky ones i share them with looking at me really weird! now dreamt that this old person of mine! not sure if friend is the appropriate word to use as our "friendship" has been tested atleast two defining times and i'm not certain it passed the test! anyhoo.......... so i'm sitting in the office and talking to a colleague of mine and then another colleague screams her name and beckons on her to come in! now that was the first weird part, met her like over 12 years ago and no one i work with knows her. so i was kinda shocked that had happened and then she walks in and says a very warm hi to the colleague i'm talking to and walks past me like i wasn't standing there. i wondered about that! then i over hear her talking to the one who called her about her wedding aso ebi. ofcourse i feel slighted, i should atleast hear about it too.....i think! anyways i go up to her later and she gives me some attitude at first and i say "not sure it's right for me to overhear your wedding info" and a mutual friend standing with her says " well she thinks you wanna come and outshine her" and i'm thinking hey i'm not even on your train how would i do that! and then she looks at me and says well it's not that i didn't want to tell you, but you see had my trad yesterday already and my church wedding is tomorrow and i'm not even going to be around for it cuz leaving the county tonight! now what bride misses her own wedding! was still trying to figure that out in my head when the idea dropped in that she was getting married to my boyfriend (who by the way i do not know) and then i woke up trying to figure out why i would dream about that and her! and then it occured to me that while waiting for the traffic to settle yesterday, i was talking with a colleague about how another girl got married to her friend and colleague's fiance and only told her a week before that she was getting married and didn't tell her who "obviously"
you see i think in graphics........the mere mention of it already sounds weird, but truth is i have a healthy imagination. i can put almost anything into pictures and i guess they kinda store up in my subconcious and play a movie for me on choice nights!
Monday, December 24, 2007
this n that
It’s 8.53 pm and I am on my computer, was watching Grey’s Anatomy a while back, then the wonderful power holding company did their thing and became nice like 5 minutes after, more like some kid had just discovered the power source switch a new toy!
Anyways, I got on my computer and thought to blog something, but not really sure what about! Considering the fact that I haven’t done so in a while anyway!
So I switch on my lappy (that’s my way of referring to my laptop) and go to a music folder on my desk top and I am listening to Chris Daughtry’s “Home” and I open my bag to get my flash drive and I see my Audio Bible CD, so I decided to listen to the new testament starting from Matthew 1. The Daughtry song was skipping anyway and I was beginning to wonder why!
So here I am typing away on what is happening to me right now. Talking about Grey’s anyway, whats with this craze about Series any way, they get you sucked in and it’s almost impossible to get satisfied with them. If you work then you know what I mean, you cant ditch work, just to make it home for a series and by the way, I’m not sure Naija is into the Tivo culture, well with the new multichoice decoder…………….. and right now I do not remember what it is called, just maybe I would before I’m done writing, we might eventually get around to doing that more often.
I love Ally McBeal! And good thing her series are all done, just a little over a hundred episodes. Seasons one to five! I saw it all again last Christmas and boy was I excited seeing every single episode. I can’t believe it’s already a year again! Where did time go!
Talking about the end of the year, for those who had dreams and goals and resolutions and blab la bla……………………. Did y’all get to keep to all of them? Hmmmmmmnnnnn I wonder, I just wonder………….i’m not going crazy by the way, heard that line in a naija series I used to watch as a kid and it just stuck. Think the title was “third eye”, it was some guys catchy phrase!
Anyhoo, still talking about the end of the year and all. I never really did have resolutions for this year um well, I guess I kinda said I wanted to be a nicer person. That sounds kinda funny doesn’t it, not sure I achieved it, but next year is another.
Well I kinda made my peace with issues I had with people and with myself and let go of a lot of pain, so I am actually a lot lighter in terms of emotional baggage. I got a pay rise……..yipee!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yeah whatever!
Well I wrote about the true meaning of Christmas two Christmases ago in this blog and the meaning still hasn’t changed for me. Even though those were happier times. …………….and by happier times I mean days when everything was perfect! And I was for the first time in my adult decision making life genuinely happy and I knew it! I didn’t need any one to tell me, I just knew it, I lived it and I enjoyed it and savored it. …………………and I still have wonderful memories of it.
Just got off the phone with my sister, who is holidaying for Christmas and I’m home alone cooking Christmas lunch!
Thought I just heard my father scream my name now and I answered and ran downstairs only to hear that he didn’t call for me. I was always warned about that by my mum (May her soul rest in peace) never ever to answer if I wasn’t sure or couldn’t see the person calling out my name! our wonderful mothers who told us soo many things while growing up that sometimes, we do not know which is true or not, we just somehow take it into our adult lives.
My mama used to say to me, “don’t drink coconut water, you will become very scared and paranoid when you grow up!” funny thing though was I saw her drink it one too many times or when she said to me……………now get a load of this, “don’t ever eat chicken butt, you would become a gossip!”
Anyhow when I went downstairs, heard a song I have heard one toooo may times on tv, but i guess I heard it with meaning tonight. Chorus goes thus…..
“Though I walk through the valley lo
I’ll fear no, evil
By the waters, still my soul,
My heart will trust in you
My heart will trust in you”
For me this just says that God knows all, sees all, and knows best and hey! He can be trusted, so by all means give it all to him and let him do the rest.
This ends it for me tonight, off to watch more series! I didn’t quite have a title for this post when I started, cuz it wasn’t planned, but will just call it “this n that”
Ciao ciao peeps!
NB: It's a PVR Decoder! i just remembered
Anyways, I got on my computer and thought to blog something, but not really sure what about! Considering the fact that I haven’t done so in a while anyway!
So I switch on my lappy (that’s my way of referring to my laptop) and go to a music folder on my desk top and I am listening to Chris Daughtry’s “Home” and I open my bag to get my flash drive and I see my Audio Bible CD, so I decided to listen to the new testament starting from Matthew 1. The Daughtry song was skipping anyway and I was beginning to wonder why!
So here I am typing away on what is happening to me right now. Talking about Grey’s anyway, whats with this craze about Series any way, they get you sucked in and it’s almost impossible to get satisfied with them. If you work then you know what I mean, you cant ditch work, just to make it home for a series and by the way, I’m not sure Naija is into the Tivo culture, well with the new multichoice decoder…………….. and right now I do not remember what it is called, just maybe I would before I’m done writing, we might eventually get around to doing that more often.
I love Ally McBeal! And good thing her series are all done, just a little over a hundred episodes. Seasons one to five! I saw it all again last Christmas and boy was I excited seeing every single episode. I can’t believe it’s already a year again! Where did time go!
Talking about the end of the year, for those who had dreams and goals and resolutions and blab la bla……………………. Did y’all get to keep to all of them? Hmmmmmmnnnnn I wonder, I just wonder………….i’m not going crazy by the way, heard that line in a naija series I used to watch as a kid and it just stuck. Think the title was “third eye”, it was some guys catchy phrase!
Anyhoo, still talking about the end of the year and all. I never really did have resolutions for this year um well, I guess I kinda said I wanted to be a nicer person. That sounds kinda funny doesn’t it, not sure I achieved it, but next year is another.
Well I kinda made my peace with issues I had with people and with myself and let go of a lot of pain, so I am actually a lot lighter in terms of emotional baggage. I got a pay rise……..yipee!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yeah whatever!
Well I wrote about the true meaning of Christmas two Christmases ago in this blog and the meaning still hasn’t changed for me. Even though those were happier times. …………….and by happier times I mean days when everything was perfect! And I was for the first time in my adult decision making life genuinely happy and I knew it! I didn’t need any one to tell me, I just knew it, I lived it and I enjoyed it and savored it. …………………and I still have wonderful memories of it.
Just got off the phone with my sister, who is holidaying for Christmas and I’m home alone cooking Christmas lunch!
Thought I just heard my father scream my name now and I answered and ran downstairs only to hear that he didn’t call for me. I was always warned about that by my mum (May her soul rest in peace) never ever to answer if I wasn’t sure or couldn’t see the person calling out my name! our wonderful mothers who told us soo many things while growing up that sometimes, we do not know which is true or not, we just somehow take it into our adult lives.
My mama used to say to me, “don’t drink coconut water, you will become very scared and paranoid when you grow up!” funny thing though was I saw her drink it one too many times or when she said to me……………now get a load of this, “don’t ever eat chicken butt, you would become a gossip!”
Anyhow when I went downstairs, heard a song I have heard one toooo may times on tv, but i guess I heard it with meaning tonight. Chorus goes thus…..
“Though I walk through the valley lo
I’ll fear no, evil
By the waters, still my soul,
My heart will trust in you
My heart will trust in you”
For me this just says that God knows all, sees all, and knows best and hey! He can be trusted, so by all means give it all to him and let him do the rest.
This ends it for me tonight, off to watch more series! I didn’t quite have a title for this post when I started, cuz it wasn’t planned, but will just call it “this n that”
Ciao ciao peeps!
NB: It's a PVR Decoder! i just remembered
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Much ado about BBA2
I've been a fan of Big Brother since i discovered it. i saw the first Big Brother Africa, Some of BB South Africa, BB Nigeria, and some of BB uk. the thing is though, i haven't been as irritated, as i am with this BB Africa 2.
I think i should start wiv my views on the housemates.
First up is Tatiana. i personally think she's sweet and all and just a fun loving human being. But she's the queen of mind games. She has Richard the Tanzanian house mate round her itsy bitsy finger.
Then there's Justice. the first evictee! i couldn't stand the guy. he had major issues. all stemming from his height though. I was mad at him through out the period he was in the house. he was an insecure human being who took out all his frustrations on every housemate at the slightest opportunity. he couldnt communicate, he couldnt accept an apology, nasty!
I think i should start wiv my views on the housemates.
First up is Tatiana. i personally think she's sweet and all and just a fun loving human being. But she's the queen of mind games. She has Richard the Tanzanian house mate round her itsy bitsy finger.
Then there's Justice. the first evictee! i couldn't stand the guy. he had major issues. all stemming from his height though. I was mad at him through out the period he was in the house. he was an insecure human being who took out all his frustrations on every housemate at the slightest opportunity. he couldnt communicate, he couldnt accept an apology, nasty!
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
DON'T GROW OLD
Got this as an email a really long time ago and just thought to share with all who might be interested! I think it’s kinda deep…………………
Many people are afraid of growing old.
I'm afraid of growing old and boring.
Many people are afraid of growing old, alone.
I'm afraid of growing old, insane.
Many people are afraid of losing their looks.
I'm afraid of losing my dreams.
Many people are afraid of losing their youth.
I'm afraid of losing my soul.
When you're 15, 35 seems ancient.
When you're 35, 15 seems juvenile.
A turnaround in a split second - two decades zoom past and
before you know it, it's only a mile to the next millennium.
Don't fear age,
it's a right of person-hood.
Don't fear death- it's God's greatest jest.
Don't grow old - you don't have to.
Don't date because you're desperate.
Don't marry because you're miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't separate because you think it's fashionable.
Don't drink because you have troubles.
Don't gamble because you think winning is inevitable.
Don't philander because you think you're irresistible.
Most likely, you're not.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat.
Don't lie.
Don't pretend.
Don't try to buy your way into the kingdom of God.
Don't dictate because you're smarter.
Don't demand because you're stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you're old enough and know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family or your ideals.
Don't stagnate.
Don't regress.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Don't live in the past.
Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw you life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your
biological clock is ticking and you can't afford to have your
eggs harvested before the new millennium.
There's always a mad rush to something, somewhere - but victory
does not always belong to those who finish first.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid
for some of life's more hasty decisions.
You can't always go with the throng who could be wrong.
Sometimes, you have to be alone to be enlightened.
To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong
reasons.
To keep yourself warm, buy a jacket.
In the long run, it will be less complicated and less costly.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of
what you can be.
Simplify your life.
Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements - abusive friends, nasty habits
and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities, but don't overdose on duty.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your
family.
Be true to yourself. Don't commit when you're not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Fall in love - it's the greatest thing on earth.
But take care and remember, after the fall must come the rise.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you must even at society's scorn.
Write poetry. Love deeply. Walk barefoot. Hold hands.
Dance with wild abandon. Cry at the movies.
Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except you.
It is true that life doesn't get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid.
Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old.
Just grow up.
Many people are afraid of growing old.
I'm afraid of growing old and boring.
Many people are afraid of growing old, alone.
I'm afraid of growing old, insane.
Many people are afraid of losing their looks.
I'm afraid of losing my dreams.
Many people are afraid of losing their youth.
I'm afraid of losing my soul.
When you're 15, 35 seems ancient.
When you're 35, 15 seems juvenile.
A turnaround in a split second - two decades zoom past and
before you know it, it's only a mile to the next millennium.
Don't fear age,
it's a right of person-hood.
Don't fear death- it's God's greatest jest.
Don't grow old - you don't have to.
Don't date because you're desperate.
Don't marry because you're miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't separate because you think it's fashionable.
Don't drink because you have troubles.
Don't gamble because you think winning is inevitable.
Don't philander because you think you're irresistible.
Most likely, you're not.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat.
Don't lie.
Don't pretend.
Don't try to buy your way into the kingdom of God.
Don't dictate because you're smarter.
Don't demand because you're stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you're old enough and know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family or your ideals.
Don't stagnate.
Don't regress.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Don't live in the past.
Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw you life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your
biological clock is ticking and you can't afford to have your
eggs harvested before the new millennium.
There's always a mad rush to something, somewhere - but victory
does not always belong to those who finish first.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid
for some of life's more hasty decisions.
You can't always go with the throng who could be wrong.
Sometimes, you have to be alone to be enlightened.
To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong
reasons.
To keep yourself warm, buy a jacket.
In the long run, it will be less complicated and less costly.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of
what you can be.
Simplify your life.
Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements - abusive friends, nasty habits
and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities, but don't overdose on duty.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your
family.
Be true to yourself. Don't commit when you're not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Fall in love - it's the greatest thing on earth.
But take care and remember, after the fall must come the rise.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you must even at society's scorn.
Write poetry. Love deeply. Walk barefoot. Hold hands.
Dance with wild abandon. Cry at the movies.
Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except you.
It is true that life doesn't get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid.
Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old.
Just grow up.
Urban Legends and Hoax e-mails
Ever get all those really sad e-mails where some little girl is dying of cancer and you can save her life if you only forwarded it to all your friends, or how Yahoo is about to yank people off their mail service and you need to forward the message to all the people on your address book so management knows you are still an active yahoo user, or how Microsoft is giving away thousands of dollars and you really need to send the message fast so you can get some, or even how some lady had maggots growing in her breast and how everyone really needs to be careful and the list is endless really.
I really used to believe all them e-mails and forward them to everyone on my mailing list until a friend made me promise never to send any such emails till i was very sure of the source. So i started checking them out, everytime i got them.
It was pretty easy though, all i had to do was google a significant item in the story and the results 99% of the time came back as links to and urban legend with the origin and all that stuff. And from that day on, i got liberated from feeling guilty after not forwarding an e-mail that could probably save someones life! Hoax! Hoax! Hoax! That’s what they all are.
So people, you might want to google all such stories when you get them and you will find they are untrue. Lastly,
• You will not have 10 years of bad luck if you do not forward an email
• You will not find your true love just because you sent an e-mail
• Your wish would not come true just because you forwarded an e-mail
• You are not heartless just because you refused to forward an email
• Yahoo is not cramped for space and therefore needs to yank some people off
• Isn’t it weird that the same little girl has had cancer and will die in 6 months for almost 5 years now
I really used to believe all them e-mails and forward them to everyone on my mailing list until a friend made me promise never to send any such emails till i was very sure of the source. So i started checking them out, everytime i got them.
It was pretty easy though, all i had to do was google a significant item in the story and the results 99% of the time came back as links to and urban legend with the origin and all that stuff. And from that day on, i got liberated from feeling guilty after not forwarding an e-mail that could probably save someones life! Hoax! Hoax! Hoax! That’s what they all are.
So people, you might want to google all such stories when you get them and you will find they are untrue. Lastly,
• You will not have 10 years of bad luck if you do not forward an email
• You will not find your true love just because you sent an e-mail
• Your wish would not come true just because you forwarded an e-mail
• You are not heartless just because you refused to forward an email
• Yahoo is not cramped for space and therefore needs to yank some people off
• Isn’t it weird that the same little girl has had cancer and will die in 6 months for almost 5 years now
Monday, July 16, 2007
See Dubai and die!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ever heard that? Well been there, seen it, and lived!
Seriously! its a wonder! you have to see it yourself to get the gist. Most people just know about Dubai as a tax free zone and only think about shopping and all. Its much more than shopping and business.
I boarded my Qatar Airways flight enroute to Dubai via Doha. I didnt get to see much of Qatar though as i was just changing planes there. My first impression of Dubai was at the passport control. I saw people in their numbers and then i knew there must really be something about Dubai.
The down side for a Naija girl like me was the heat, it was sooo hot and it felt like the sun was shining and it was like 10pm! So you can imagine, i was going from heat to heat! (Naija peeps in d house) I started the next morning on a shopping trip to the Diera City Center. Yeah Yeah i'm a girl.... i like shopping!...... naturally i would wanna check out the shops. Its not one of Dubai's biggest but it is quite big and standard. Shops ranging from H & M (My fav casual clothing shop) to Calvin Klien.
Ok Ok now to the sight seeing and sturvz. I took a bus tour of Dubai and saw all the really nice buildings and all, the tallest building in the world (still under construction though, but its already the tallest and still going!), the Bruj Al Arab (Now thats a sight to behold), the palace of the Ruler of Dubai, the Dubai Museum, the man made sea, the Diera palm, the diera creek, the spice souk and Gold souk too! i have never seen soo many Gold shops in one place. Pity i am not a gold freak so i didn't get any gold atall :-)
The high point of my visit though was the Desert Safari! Oh! My God!!!!! The experience is second to none. It gets your adrenalin way up! My excitment started with my really really fine safari driver "Ali" mnnn mnnn! he was soooo fine! He was probably wondering why this naija girl kept staring at him, whatever! i stared and stared until i had a mental image of him imprinted in my head hehehehehehehe.
We went over dunes and dunes of desert sand at high speed, it was crazy! it felt like going on a roller coaster ride in the sand! there were times i thought the car was gonna go over and roll down, but fine Ali knew his stuff. Then i had a buffet in the desert, and went to see belly dancing! and also had Henna done on my hand!
The Mall of the Emirates is another really nice mall to visit. It's way bigger than the Diera City Center and has all the major shops and more. The most interesting thing for me at the Mall of the Emirates though was the Ski Pavillion. All artificial snow and the temp in there was -3 deg i think! so for all you ski enthusiasts!
And the food! how could i forget the food! i had all sorts! for all the malls i went to, i always went to the maps and traced the food courts! i had Chinese, Japanese, Mexican, and Thai!
Anyways i should stop gushing about Dubai. For those of you who hope to visit, what am i saying, y'all should visit. Make sure you visit the Wild Wadi, the malls, go on the Dhow Cruise, Desert Safari, the city tour and visit the local markets too
Seriously! its a wonder! you have to see it yourself to get the gist. Most people just know about Dubai as a tax free zone and only think about shopping and all. Its much more than shopping and business.
I boarded my Qatar Airways flight enroute to Dubai via Doha. I didnt get to see much of Qatar though as i was just changing planes there. My first impression of Dubai was at the passport control. I saw people in their numbers and then i knew there must really be something about Dubai.
The down side for a Naija girl like me was the heat, it was sooo hot and it felt like the sun was shining and it was like 10pm! So you can imagine, i was going from heat to heat! (Naija peeps in d house) I started the next morning on a shopping trip to the Diera City Center. Yeah Yeah i'm a girl.... i like shopping!...... naturally i would wanna check out the shops. Its not one of Dubai's biggest but it is quite big and standard. Shops ranging from H & M (My fav casual clothing shop) to Calvin Klien.
Ok Ok now to the sight seeing and sturvz. I took a bus tour of Dubai and saw all the really nice buildings and all, the tallest building in the world (still under construction though, but its already the tallest and still going!), the Bruj Al Arab (Now thats a sight to behold), the palace of the Ruler of Dubai, the Dubai Museum, the man made sea, the Diera palm, the diera creek, the spice souk and Gold souk too! i have never seen soo many Gold shops in one place. Pity i am not a gold freak so i didn't get any gold atall :-)
The high point of my visit though was the Desert Safari! Oh! My God!!!!! The experience is second to none. It gets your adrenalin way up! My excitment started with my really really fine safari driver "Ali" mnnn mnnn! he was soooo fine! He was probably wondering why this naija girl kept staring at him, whatever! i stared and stared until i had a mental image of him imprinted in my head hehehehehehehe.
We went over dunes and dunes of desert sand at high speed, it was crazy! it felt like going on a roller coaster ride in the sand! there were times i thought the car was gonna go over and roll down, but fine Ali knew his stuff. Then i had a buffet in the desert, and went to see belly dancing! and also had Henna done on my hand!
The Mall of the Emirates is another really nice mall to visit. It's way bigger than the Diera City Center and has all the major shops and more. The most interesting thing for me at the Mall of the Emirates though was the Ski Pavillion. All artificial snow and the temp in there was -3 deg i think! so for all you ski enthusiasts!
And the food! how could i forget the food! i had all sorts! for all the malls i went to, i always went to the maps and traced the food courts! i had Chinese, Japanese, Mexican, and Thai!
Anyways i should stop gushing about Dubai. For those of you who hope to visit, what am i saying, y'all should visit. Make sure you visit the Wild Wadi, the malls, go on the Dhow Cruise, Desert Safari, the city tour and visit the local markets too
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
More Than Words
More Than Words
Saying i love you
is not the words i want to hear from you
it's not that i don't want you
not to say but if you only knew
how, easy
it would be to show me how you feel
more than words
is you have to do
to make it real
then you wouldn't have to say
tha you love me
cuz i'd already know
Chorus
what would you do
if my heart was turning to
more than words
to show you feel
that your love for me is real
What would you say
if i took those words away
then you couldn't make things new
just by saying, i love you
Now that i've tried to
talk to you and make you understand
all you have to do
is close your eyes and just reach out your hands
and touch me
hold me close don't ever let me go
More than words
is all i ever needed you to show
then you wouldn't have to say,
that you love me
cuz id already know
Chorus again
its more than words , its more than
what you say
its the things you do
Really love this song! this is like my best song of all times. The words make perfect meaning to me. Its not all about the words, cuz anyone can say anything they think or they feel at anypoint, but do they really mean it?
i don't think love is what you say. Me thinks its what you do, and how you do it, and most importantly when you do it. It's really no use doing something when its too late and all.
Well its christmas again and the true meaning of christmas for me is LOVE. The love of a father for his children, the birth of the essense of love.
You know it gets crazy when you hear things like "love is patient" "love is kind", "Love is long suffering". How many of us are really patient with those we claim to love, or even kind to them or even willing to work things out or take things one step at a time.
I'm guilty of not being some of thise things and the truth is i find it easy to blame it on "thats the kind of person i am" 'You know i'm the kind of person that" and all. I hope this excuse sounds familiar to some peeps.
It then takes me down to the issue of forgiveness. I really always wonder what it entails. its crazy when you decide to forgive a person and somehow, you are always reminded of what they did to you, especially if they keep doing the same thing over and over again. How do you get past it really? i struggle with things like that sometimes.
Most times i basically go like well fine i'm done being mad at this person and all, but i tend to avoid them in the best way i can. i get that they have the tendency to do certain stuff and i just never give them the opportunity to anymore.
now one still wonders, is that good or bad. Cuz its almost like writing a person off in certain aspects and whatever happened to change. I mean people do change and all right?
Saying i love you
is not the words i want to hear from you
it's not that i don't want you
not to say but if you only knew
how, easy
it would be to show me how you feel
more than words
is you have to do
to make it real
then you wouldn't have to say
tha you love me
cuz i'd already know
Chorus
what would you do
if my heart was turning to
more than words
to show you feel
that your love for me is real
What would you say
if i took those words away
then you couldn't make things new
just by saying, i love you
Now that i've tried to
talk to you and make you understand
all you have to do
is close your eyes and just reach out your hands
and touch me
hold me close don't ever let me go
More than words
is all i ever needed you to show
then you wouldn't have to say,
that you love me
cuz id already know
Chorus again
its more than words , its more than
what you say
its the things you do
Really love this song! this is like my best song of all times. The words make perfect meaning to me. Its not all about the words, cuz anyone can say anything they think or they feel at anypoint, but do they really mean it?
i don't think love is what you say. Me thinks its what you do, and how you do it, and most importantly when you do it. It's really no use doing something when its too late and all.
Well its christmas again and the true meaning of christmas for me is LOVE. The love of a father for his children, the birth of the essense of love.
You know it gets crazy when you hear things like "love is patient" "love is kind", "Love is long suffering". How many of us are really patient with those we claim to love, or even kind to them or even willing to work things out or take things one step at a time.
I'm guilty of not being some of thise things and the truth is i find it easy to blame it on "thats the kind of person i am" 'You know i'm the kind of person that" and all. I hope this excuse sounds familiar to some peeps.
It then takes me down to the issue of forgiveness. I really always wonder what it entails. its crazy when you decide to forgive a person and somehow, you are always reminded of what they did to you, especially if they keep doing the same thing over and over again. How do you get past it really? i struggle with things like that sometimes.
Most times i basically go like well fine i'm done being mad at this person and all, but i tend to avoid them in the best way i can. i get that they have the tendency to do certain stuff and i just never give them the opportunity to anymore.
now one still wonders, is that good or bad. Cuz its almost like writing a person off in certain aspects and whatever happened to change. I mean people do change and all right?
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
Hey
Its been a really long while since i actually wrote anything here, and i really wonder why. Well i guess its because i have been going through what i would call "the process" . I'm not done with it though, but i guess i have time to put something down. Funny thing really is, i don't know what i'm about to blab on and on about.
Hmnn! Maybe talking about my process would be a good idea then. Ever feel like the walls are closing in on you? Or maybe when you think "whats the worst that could happen" something happens and you just don't get it. Crazy huh? Well thats life!
"First cut is the deepest" playing on my system. Don't ask why i said that.................................. :-)
Anyway back to what i was talking about. It's a crazy world we are living in, and sometimes in our journey through life, we get to the true reality of life and just how unfair it can be. We often find ourselves stuck in the rut and down to the barest minimum.
I read somewhere that "When you are down to nothing, then for the first time you realize that God is all you need" I agree! But there is always a process he takes you through. Its never the same for everyone and i guess its never the same time frame aswell. So this is where it gets confusing, some peeps get through stuff faster and are onto other things, while some peeps are there for a while.
I guess it can also be refered to as alone time, because you feel alone and deserted aswell. But you also know what they say "At the time when you feel most alone, God is right there with you" i agree! but how do you know, Honestly you don't have a blue print that gives you all the info you need, but you have to believe that he will see you through.
Guess its like the analogy of refining Gold, we all know how in its raw form , it has potential, but not until it goes through the fire (process) and comes out do you see its full potentials begin to show. Or just like a diamond, where you have to be patient while cutting, to get the most value out of it.
The process is never an easy stage to be in, because you sometimes want to give up and just walk away, you wonder if there would ever be an end, you wonder if someday, somehow, sometime would ever make sense to you.
Well i'm still in my process, but i do know that no matter how long it takes, its definately worth it. It might not be what you have worked out in your mind but its always the best for you and when you finally get it, you will know it too.
Plus you will be glad when it happens! Hang in there, There is a God and he will see you through!
PS: Saw "Casino royale" the other day and it wasn't half as bad, going to see "Holiday" on friday and will see "Eragon" when it starts showing! Love Jeremy Irons by the way. Havent gotten over him from 'Kingdom of Heaven" AND I STILL LOVE "ORLANDO BLOOM" :-) :-) not getting that twisted :-)
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Hmnn! Maybe talking about my process would be a good idea then. Ever feel like the walls are closing in on you? Or maybe when you think "whats the worst that could happen" something happens and you just don't get it. Crazy huh? Well thats life!
"First cut is the deepest" playing on my system. Don't ask why i said that.................................. :-)
Anyway back to what i was talking about. It's a crazy world we are living in, and sometimes in our journey through life, we get to the true reality of life and just how unfair it can be. We often find ourselves stuck in the rut and down to the barest minimum.
I read somewhere that "When you are down to nothing, then for the first time you realize that God is all you need" I agree! But there is always a process he takes you through. Its never the same for everyone and i guess its never the same time frame aswell. So this is where it gets confusing, some peeps get through stuff faster and are onto other things, while some peeps are there for a while.
I guess it can also be refered to as alone time, because you feel alone and deserted aswell. But you also know what they say "At the time when you feel most alone, God is right there with you" i agree! but how do you know, Honestly you don't have a blue print that gives you all the info you need, but you have to believe that he will see you through.
Guess its like the analogy of refining Gold, we all know how in its raw form , it has potential, but not until it goes through the fire (process) and comes out do you see its full potentials begin to show. Or just like a diamond, where you have to be patient while cutting, to get the most value out of it.
The process is never an easy stage to be in, because you sometimes want to give up and just walk away, you wonder if there would ever be an end, you wonder if someday, somehow, sometime would ever make sense to you.
Well i'm still in my process, but i do know that no matter how long it takes, its definately worth it. It might not be what you have worked out in your mind but its always the best for you and when you finally get it, you will know it too.
Plus you will be glad when it happens! Hang in there, There is a God and he will see you through!
PS: Saw "Casino royale" the other day and it wasn't half as bad, going to see "Holiday" on friday and will see "Eragon" when it starts showing! Love Jeremy Irons by the way. Havent gotten over him from 'Kingdom of Heaven" AND I STILL LOVE "ORLANDO BLOOM" :-) :-) not getting that twisted :-)
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