…….So I was at the market on Saturday and I saw the most shocking thing! It wasn’t that unusual though but this was just kinda…………..
Was standing in front of my customer’s stall, waiting to buy snails when I saw two children (a boy and a girl, definitely not older than 5 both of them) locked in a very very warm adult embrace! Now she was standing in front of him with both her hands curled tightly around his neck and he had his hands around her waist and they were just there…locked in an embrace that wasn’t about to end! They were standing so close to each other, that I couldn’t drive a pin right through them without pricking one of them.
Trust market women………about 5 of the women who had stalls in the same area started poking fun at them and calling the attention of the girl’s mother, a fellow trader “mama……. Come see your pikin o!” “e don marry finish for inside market!” That was the point I broke my stare and started laughing.
Now hear this……. One of the women separated them and hit the girl tauntingly and asked her to go and sit down but she screamed and went right back to hug him! Of course they all burst out laughing and making their comments “see them o”, “dem don start o”. They of course got separated again and this time the boy held on firmly to her hand and refused to let go.
At this point, I was done buying my snails and had to leave before I become the topic for not minding my business…….. I really do not know how that ended. Wondering where on earth those kids picked that up from! Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not unusual for kids of different genders to pair up, play, hug etc heck it’s even cute sometimes and you even get those awwwwwww moments, but this was too intense…………….even after it stopped being funny and they stopped them, they refused to let go, worse still she kept coming back…………. Frankly she looked like a desperate little girl!
A colleague sent me a video of some Nigerian kids at a party. Someone recorded it on phone and passed it around because they thought it was hilarious. Now get a load of this………….. I think the song playing was P-Squares “Do me”. This boy was dancing with a girl and yet again they couldn’t have been older than 5 or 6 maybe. She turns her back to him and bends wriggling her non existent waist and he holds her by the waist, closes in on her and keeps dancing! Now that was atrocious and repugnant at the same time! How did she learn to dance like that, and how did he know to hold her by the waist. He could have just left his hands up in the air where everyone could see them.
I remember saying to myself that day, after seeing the clip that if I ever saw my child like that, I wouldn’t just laugh it off. I remember as a kid, I could never have tried either scenario. My mother “God rest her soul” would have dealt with me soo bad. The no nonsense Edo woman that she was. Some times I thought she over did it, but if there was one thing I could say to her right now, it would be “Thanks mum, for molding me into the woman I am today”.
Was talking to a friend the other day and was telling her that all my mother had to give me was “the eye” and I immediately got the message. The weirdest part was the eye meant different things and I understood them all.
There was the eye for:
• Don’t you dare eat that food you are being offered, while her lips were parted in a soft smile saying to me “ah ah, you don’t want to eat”. The long and short was if I touched the food, I would be in soup, literarily.
• You had better stop that now, before I smack you.
• Just wait till we get home, I will so smack you for embarrassing me out here, as if you do not have more than enough toys to play with at home.
• The worst was ofcourse the “I will not wait till we get home, I will smack you right here and right now and there is nothing you can do about it, besides your father is not here to save you. If you think you can disgrace me out here, I would return the favour!
After being smacked around a few times, I got my act together faster than anything. Personally I believe nothing can replace a certain amount of discipline in every aspect of life and it starts from childhood.
…………So I’m thinking if I was that little girl in the market on Saturday, all my mother had to do was look at me and I would just stop…………..no buts or maybe’s.
Monday, June 15, 2009
Friday, June 12, 2009
daytime musings!
Now i haven't done this in a really really long time! the last time i wrote anything here was well over a year ago................dunno why i'm back here again!
Deactivated my facebook account like over a month ago! woke up one morning and said to myself "it's high time i got off facebook" truth is i really didn't see the fun in it anymore. check my profile, read peoples updates and look at pictures till my eyes pop open! maybe another reason i decided to bail was to allow myself some time to introspect..............
so yesterday was a really crazy day on the island! it rained torrents! crazy thing is when i was leaving home in the morning, there really was no indication that it was going to be a wet wet wet day. Got to Outter marina and it just poured! traffic was no joke, but was real impressed to see that LASTMA was working in the rain. i finally made it to the island eightish! now here was the problem. i was stuck in the car and couldn't get out cuz the rain was still soooo heavy. Decided to sit in for a bit and ended up staying in my car for an hour! Finally decided to get out and run across the road (with an umbrella ofcourse) to the office...... hmnnnn was drenched by the time i got into the office! so much for an island bigz girl wannabe. And then it was time to go home! crazy traffic right from the front of the office! had to chill in the office till past 8! and then got home in like 30 mins!
now most people would be surprised if i told them this, for the simple reason that i swear off night driving. totally hate driving anywhere at night. Not with everyone's full lights comming at me from behind, opposite and beside! my eyes literarily hurt and i do not see a thing. same effect when i'm driving on a very sunny day....so bad now that i have permanent sunglasses for my car.
picked up a new interest in watching "sex and the city" this is ofcourse because i'm up to date on ..desperate housewives..lost..greys anatomy..house..girlfriends..scrubs.. and i could just go on and on. By the way, i'm not one of those ..prison break..alias..24.. people! so i'm usually in limbo when it's the topic of discussion around me. not that i haven't given it a chance. Got season one to four of ..prison break.. from a friend once and tried to watch it, but i just didn't find it engaging i guess. and i know some people might have me for dinner just for making this statement but its the truth.
begining to feel that way about ..sex and the city.. as well but "giving it a chance". Seen the first five episodes, but just feels like a bunch of desperate 30 something year olds! saw the movie and it was really cool, that's actually why i decided to see the series. good thing its friday! might pull an all nighter on season one!
Had yet another crazy dream yesterday night! always seem to have crazy dreams that leave the lucky ones i share them with looking at me really weird! now dreamt that this old person of mine! not sure if friend is the appropriate word to use as our "friendship" has been tested atleast two defining times and i'm not certain it passed the test! anyhoo.......... so i'm sitting in the office and talking to a colleague of mine and then another colleague screams her name and beckons on her to come in! now that was the first weird part, met her like over 12 years ago and no one i work with knows her. so i was kinda shocked that had happened and then she walks in and says a very warm hi to the colleague i'm talking to and walks past me like i wasn't standing there. i wondered about that! then i over hear her talking to the one who called her about her wedding aso ebi. ofcourse i feel slighted, i should atleast hear about it too.....i think! anyways i go up to her later and she gives me some attitude at first and i say "not sure it's right for me to overhear your wedding info" and a mutual friend standing with her says " well she thinks you wanna come and outshine her" and i'm thinking hey i'm not even on your train how would i do that! and then she looks at me and says well it's not that i didn't want to tell you, but you see had my trad yesterday already and my church wedding is tomorrow and i'm not even going to be around for it cuz leaving the county tonight! now what bride misses her own wedding! was still trying to figure that out in my head when the idea dropped in that she was getting married to my boyfriend (who by the way i do not know) and then i woke up trying to figure out why i would dream about that and her! and then it occured to me that while waiting for the traffic to settle yesterday, i was talking with a colleague about how another girl got married to her friend and colleague's fiance and only told her a week before that she was getting married and didn't tell her who "obviously"
you see i think in graphics........the mere mention of it already sounds weird, but truth is i have a healthy imagination. i can put almost anything into pictures and i guess they kinda store up in my subconcious and play a movie for me on choice nights!
Deactivated my facebook account like over a month ago! woke up one morning and said to myself "it's high time i got off facebook" truth is i really didn't see the fun in it anymore. check my profile, read peoples updates and look at pictures till my eyes pop open! maybe another reason i decided to bail was to allow myself some time to introspect..............
so yesterday was a really crazy day on the island! it rained torrents! crazy thing is when i was leaving home in the morning, there really was no indication that it was going to be a wet wet wet day. Got to Outter marina and it just poured! traffic was no joke, but was real impressed to see that LASTMA was working in the rain. i finally made it to the island eightish! now here was the problem. i was stuck in the car and couldn't get out cuz the rain was still soooo heavy. Decided to sit in for a bit and ended up staying in my car for an hour! Finally decided to get out and run across the road (with an umbrella ofcourse) to the office...... hmnnnn was drenched by the time i got into the office! so much for an island bigz girl wannabe. And then it was time to go home! crazy traffic right from the front of the office! had to chill in the office till past 8! and then got home in like 30 mins!
now most people would be surprised if i told them this, for the simple reason that i swear off night driving. totally hate driving anywhere at night. Not with everyone's full lights comming at me from behind, opposite and beside! my eyes literarily hurt and i do not see a thing. same effect when i'm driving on a very sunny day....so bad now that i have permanent sunglasses for my car.
picked up a new interest in watching "sex and the city" this is ofcourse because i'm up to date on ..desperate housewives..lost..greys anatomy..house..girlfriends..scrubs.. and i could just go on and on. By the way, i'm not one of those ..prison break..alias..24.. people! so i'm usually in limbo when it's the topic of discussion around me. not that i haven't given it a chance. Got season one to four of ..prison break.. from a friend once and tried to watch it, but i just didn't find it engaging i guess. and i know some people might have me for dinner just for making this statement but its the truth.
begining to feel that way about ..sex and the city.. as well but "giving it a chance". Seen the first five episodes, but just feels like a bunch of desperate 30 something year olds! saw the movie and it was really cool, that's actually why i decided to see the series. good thing its friday! might pull an all nighter on season one!
Had yet another crazy dream yesterday night! always seem to have crazy dreams that leave the lucky ones i share them with looking at me really weird! now dreamt that this old person of mine! not sure if friend is the appropriate word to use as our "friendship" has been tested atleast two defining times and i'm not certain it passed the test! anyhoo.......... so i'm sitting in the office and talking to a colleague of mine and then another colleague screams her name and beckons on her to come in! now that was the first weird part, met her like over 12 years ago and no one i work with knows her. so i was kinda shocked that had happened and then she walks in and says a very warm hi to the colleague i'm talking to and walks past me like i wasn't standing there. i wondered about that! then i over hear her talking to the one who called her about her wedding aso ebi. ofcourse i feel slighted, i should atleast hear about it too.....i think! anyways i go up to her later and she gives me some attitude at first and i say "not sure it's right for me to overhear your wedding info" and a mutual friend standing with her says " well she thinks you wanna come and outshine her" and i'm thinking hey i'm not even on your train how would i do that! and then she looks at me and says well it's not that i didn't want to tell you, but you see had my trad yesterday already and my church wedding is tomorrow and i'm not even going to be around for it cuz leaving the county tonight! now what bride misses her own wedding! was still trying to figure that out in my head when the idea dropped in that she was getting married to my boyfriend (who by the way i do not know) and then i woke up trying to figure out why i would dream about that and her! and then it occured to me that while waiting for the traffic to settle yesterday, i was talking with a colleague about how another girl got married to her friend and colleague's fiance and only told her a week before that she was getting married and didn't tell her who "obviously"
you see i think in graphics........the mere mention of it already sounds weird, but truth is i have a healthy imagination. i can put almost anything into pictures and i guess they kinda store up in my subconcious and play a movie for me on choice nights!
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